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Women between fifteen and forty-four are more likely to be injured or die from male violence than from traffic accidents, cancer, malaria, and the effects of war combined.

A difficult, important piece by Ariel Levy for The New Yorker.

Help do something about it here.

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I swear to fuck if someone tries to come up in here and be like, “SOME men are violent towards women.” NO. SOME men aren’t violent towards women. Read the article, check your shit.

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My previous anons protesting me writing off the majority of men as being violent. Read this and then get off the internet forever.

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bang-now-its-dead:

Here everything ends, and begins: lionza: youarenotyou: ami-angelwings: I think what bugs MRAs and guys…

lionza:

youarenotyou:

ami-angelwings:

I think what bugs MRAs and guys like them so much about the word “creep” is that it’s the only word they understand means “Game over, you lose.  Don’t ever go near me again.”  Anything else, they feel they can work around, even a flat out “no”, just means “okay try again later” or “maybe it’s not a firm no, let’s see if I can talk my way into her phone number with another 5 minutes of pushing.”

But “creepy” means that their “shot” is over.  If they’re creeping us out, that means anything else they do will just creep us out more.  Pushing the issue will just mean they’re being more of a creep.  It’s over.  She’s never going to be interested.  Goodbye.  It is the ONLY word we have that shuts off all opportunities for them.  It is the only word we have to set our boundaries in stone.

That’s why they’re obsessed with policing it, that’s why they want it to be unusable, or call it a slur, that’s why they keep wanting explanations and claiming creepy is too vague, because they can nitpick and rules lawyer and push against explanations.

If we say they had bad breath, it means pop a breath mint and try again, if we say we’re tired, it means try again tomorrow, if we say we don’t like them, it just means we need to get to know them better, if we say we’re in a relationship, it means wait until it’s over (or try to sabotage it if they pretend they’re our friend), if we just want to be friends, it means for them to wait until another time, if we hate that they’re a transphobe, they’ll try to convince us they’re really not, if we think they’re exotifying us for our race, they’ll try to dictionary fight us about what exotifying means and it’s “just a preference”, if they touched us and we didn’t like it, they’ll try to convince us we’re over sensitive and it’s a compliment, if they were following us around, it was just them really liking us and not stalking.  On and on and on, everything we say and do will be picked apart as to why it is totally okay for them to keep haranguing us and why we objectively mustn’t rule out dating them.

Hell, there are sites upon sites upon sites, and bestselling books teaching men how to push, talk, pressure, confuse, trick, threaten, and nitpick their way past our “nos”, past our explanations, past our boundaries.  To so many guys, “no” (and any variation of no, including all explanations) means “wrong tactic, try again.”

So we HAVE to say “you’re creeping me out”, because they ARE, because a lot of the behaviours above are creepy, because not leaving us alone is creepy, because anything else we say gets pushed back onto us, and they refuse to respect our boundaries, and that is fucking creepy!  Creepy is the only tool we have to definitively send a message to a guy we’re not interested.  You’re creepy, if you do anything else towards me, you’ll be even creepier, and THAT they do understand.

And that’s why they hate it so much.  That’s why they want to take the word away from us.  And that’s why we can’t let them.  It’s the only tool we have in a society where nothing a woman says to a man to set her boundaries can’t be picked apart by that man and pushed back onto her to defend, and re-defend those boundaries.

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this post is like sriracha in how it burns with the truth

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gurl:

way-harsh-tai:

Everything Beyonce does is careful and thought out. Her entire image is perfection crafted from planning ahead. She does not ‘wing it’ or throw things into her performances and public appearances ‘just because’.

What she did at this award show was amazing, especially because of how intentional and thought out it clearly was.

Feminism is a scary word for a lot of people. Many women are afraid of calling themselves feminist because they think it implies anger, hatred of men, or a rejection of traditional femininity. 

Beyonce presented everyone watching with two distinct images of what many viewers viewed as two very different women. There is the strong, independent FEMINIST. She is the woman who likes being in control and being in the spotlight. Then there is the WIFE and MOTHER. She is soft, sweet, smiling at the husband and child you can tell she loves and values so much.

For every girl watching who was afraid to be a feminist, afraid to be powerful, because of what she thought she would lose, this is an incredible message. You can be all the things you want to be. You can be both. Feminists can have amazing happy, full lives full of both traditional and modern womanhood. 

Feminism means gender should not be a source of persecution or a restriction of your choices. Feminism mean the type of person you should be is based on what you value, not what outside forces pressure you to value because of your gender or biological sex. Shout at the top of your lungs that you are a feminist and proud. Then go and be the exact person that you want to be. 

YES. Beyonce Gave Us SO MUCH LIFE With Her MTV VMA Medley.

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rosalarian:

greenonthursdays:

huffingtonpost:

WHY THIS WOMAN WOULD RATHER READ HARRY POTTER EROTICA THAN WATCH PORN

When spoken word artist Brenna Twohy tells you that she is an unabashed devotee of all things “Potterotica” — erotic fiction based in the magical universe of Harry Potter — your response probably shouldn’t be that her taste is “unrealistic.” 

Watch her full monologue here. 

(Source: National Poetry Slam uploaded by Button Poetry)

I’m happy to be getting to the point where I don’t have to feel weird about enjoying fanfiction, or having written a bunch of it. Partly it’s that the fandom experience has become more broadly shared. Partly it’s that I stopped giving a shit.

And as for why I like the porny sort of fanfiction, see above. She says it better.

I like sex with context. I like sex when it involves fully fleshed out characters. I like the backstories. I like feeling like these people do other things when they aren’t having sex.

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gothiccharmschool:

Thoughts From The Peacock Angel: The Skull Cupcake and Why It’s One Of The Most Important Cultural Phenomenons In The World Today (TW:Discussion of…

forthegothicheroine:

marypsue:

gothiccharmschool:

thepeacockangel:

Monster High Dolls are the top selling fashion dolls in the world, out pacing even Barbie, Lady Gaga’s fans are “Little Monsters” and Gaga herself is “mother monster,” as I write this I am wearing a dress bedecked with purple unicorns and skulls with hearts for eyes with head bows and cupcakes…

Go read the whole thing. This is excellent commentary. 

The trope of the woman-monster, beautiful from the waist up and hideous and man-eating below, is as old as the ancient Greeks and most likely older. There was a whole subgenre of poetry devoted to ‘revealing’ women in their monstrous forms, once the artifice of rouge and powder and corsetry and clothing, wigs and lashes and even false eyes and limbs and teeth, are stripped away. Femininity has always been portrayed as threatening and monstrous, even in its sweetest and most delicate and therefore most perceptibly harmless form; it is then that it looks the most deceptive and most dangerous to a patriarchal audience.

Linking the dark, macabre, and monstrous to the sweet, feminine, and frilly is an act of reclamation, a throwing-in-your-face of the monstrous with which we have always been charged. It defies anyone to dare to presume we are either submitting to the structures we have been forced to inhabit, OR to assume that we are subverting those structures in order to ‘lure’ men and destroy their masculinity. Skully cupcakes and flower crowns with spikes are a loud and violent ‘fuck you’ to both the contrary ideas that we fit into the roles we have been given, or that we are aping those roles for some hidden wickedness. They put the wickedness on full display. They say, here I am, this is what you have made of me, I will not hide it for your benefit. They are the wish that backfires upon the wisher.

An interesting perspective!

sallow

Anonymous asked:

if you hate it so much, then don't do it! If it bothers you that people tell you to shave then don't fucking shave! You can't be angry at men when you do it to yourself lol

sallow answered:

  • DO NOT ATTACK WOMEN FOR WHAT SOCIETY AND CENTURIES OF MISOGYNY HAS DONE TO THEM.
  • DO NOT BLAME WOMEN FOR THEIR ATTEMPTS TO COPE WITH THE EFFECTS OF RICH MEN EXPLOITING THEIR INSECURITIES.
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asapscience:

jtotheizzoe:

thebrainscoop:

Science Needs Women: 
For Women in Science; the L’Oreal Foundation 

I’m sharing this video on any platform I can because when I first found it last week it had something like 1,400 views, but it’s the most beautifully produced and succinctly narrated video addressing some of the most complicated issues facing women in STE(A)M fields I’ve found yet. 

I’m sharing this for every time I’m called a “feminazi.”

…for every time I’m told that my concerns aren’t valid, our that our issues are imagined.

…for every time I hear “women just don’t like science,” or worse - “women just aren’t good at science.”

…for every time we’re told that we can have a family or a career, but not both - and for every time we feel like we have to decide between the two.

…for every time a study comes out saying as many as 64% of women endure sexual harassment during field work

…for the fact that women earn 41% of PhD’s in STEM fields, but make up only 28% of tenure-track faculty in those fields.

…and because we need more women mentors in these fields to stand up for issues that are not “women’s issues” - these are people issues that affect our collective society as a whole.

The women in this video are my heroes and they should be your heroes, too.

Science needs women.

Seconded! 

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vivianvivisection:

straight boys think girls can’t take compliments, and that’s ridiculous cause i’ve seen so many girls compliment each other, i’ve seen conversations & friendships blossom from girls complimenting each other in line, on the street, at school waiting for the bys, pretty much anywhere.

the problem is straight boys think sexual harassment & assault are compliments.